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| A quiet place to think about your day. |
Reflection is an activity often ignored in our busy world. The closest many of us come to reflecting on our lives is in the minutes before we fall asleep. You know, those moments when we review our day, pulling up all of the negative conversations, happenstances, and images of our immediate past. Not a good idea.
If we listen to Carmen Simon in Impossible to Ignore, reflection supports long-term memory. Do we really need to remember all the insignificant, but emotionally-charged,pains of the day? Just to kick ourselves again for our behavior. Absolutely not. Unless, perhaps, we are working on ways to re/act differently next time.
We'd be better off if we use reflection to encode strategies and processes into our long-term memory. For example, over the weekend I made a blueberry pie with a new recipe. The pie was flavorful but far too juicy. The cooked blueberries tumbled out of the pie along with all of the juice. As I reflected on the process of making the pie. I realized that the recipe didn't include any thickener. Rather than lament on how poorly the pie held together, I reflected on the process and what to do in the future. I made notes in the recipe for future reference.
This same reflective process can be used for any action that we want to make accessible in our long-term memory. How does this work? Reflection is abut elaboration - connecting to the past, adding features, and identifying examples. The point is to build bridges and links in the brain so that we have more hooks in our brain to more easily retrieve or get information out of our brain.
Reflection--thinking deeply about things--allows us the opportunity to build these synapses and strengthen retrieval. So, we need to take the time to think about the things we really want to remember, those things that will truly impact our future, rather than the negative moments.
Just before you fall asleep tonight, celebrate your successes and enhance the processes and strategies you want saved into your long-term memory.
